How to Cultivate the Life of Your Dreams:
Step 1: Choose Confidence
Step 2: Embrace Yourself
Step 3: Do the Damn Dream
So often we believe that the life of our dreams can only be fulfilled when we attain certain societal standards. We tell ourselves stories like, "I'll be confident once I have that body, "I'll have no worries once I make six figures", or "I would be happier if my life looked like that". When we tell ourselves these stories repeatedly, we begin to believe that who we are and what we have today isn't good enough. These comparisons start to lessen our confidence and make us believe that in order to be successful, beautiful, and worthy, we've gotta look like the supermodel on IG and have the Pinterest perfect house, car, office and vacations too. Girl, let me tell ya. I know models who actually do have all of this and guess what? They aren't confident, worry free, or any happier than you. It's actually quite the opposite. They are stuck further in comparison traps and riddled with anxiety from the unrealistic expectations society puts on us. So how do we get out of this messy self consciousness and into strong self confidence? First, let's affirm that confidence isn't selfish or conceited. Self confidence is self empowerment. As our queen of confidence Lizzo says, "When I'm shinin' everybody's gonna shine!" And that's a fact babe! When you immerse yourself in self love and positivity, you radiate and spread that energy to others. Your self love helps others cultivate self love. So, let's get it girls. Let's cultivate that confidence mindset NOW. You don't have to wait on these "achievements" to validate your worth or your potential. You have the power to live the life of your dreams today by letting go of the limiting stories, choosing confidence, embracing yourself and just doing the damn dream. Long lasting confidence doesn't come overnight, but believe me, the more you practice a confidence mindset, the more you will come into the powerful, confident, and fierce person you are.
Below is our lookbook in celebration of CONFIDENCE! Shot at the beautiful Bend Goods studio! Huge shout out to this fellow small colorful biz for helping us out with this shoot. All the artwork and fabulous furniture shown is by them!
The Confidence Collection
The Confidence Collection is all about affirming your worth, your beauty, and the incredibly unique perceptive you bring to the table. These new Dazey sayings and graphics are here to hype you up in all you are so you can GET IT GIRL! This collection was made to encourage you do the damn dream, work that confidence and show up fully as the fierce female you are. Remember babe, confidence is a cultivated mindset. You've got to practice it and preach it to be it. At any given moment we have the choice to show up confidently in life rather than in fear of judgment, self doubt, or shame. But how? It's not easy, but girl, it's powerful AF. It's learning to choose self confidence over self consciousness. It's ditching comparison traps or “not good enough” mindsets and knowing that you can accomplish any damn thing you dream. It's learning to go against the grain and stand up for yourself. It's the ability to thrive in positive self affirmation and show up fully for yourself. Confidence is the ultimate glow up, queens. Let's bloom with confidence and show the world what a fierce glow up looks like.
Self Confidence > Self Consciousness
Growing up, self consciousness consumed so much of my time. There was always a part of me worrying about what other people thought of me, what I looked like, if I was cool enough, etc. It was a debilitating process that stopped me from expressing myself and being fully me. As I became an adult, I observed that people aren't just confident naturally. Confidence was cultivated by choice. People become confident, powerful, and fierce by choosing that mindset and allowing that positive energy to carry them through work and life. So to get my confidence blooming, I did the same. I chose confidence over self consciousness, allowed my wacky ideas to shine, worked towards my dream, and stopped caring what everyone else thought. I allowed self assurance to guide me towards being less self absorbed by self doubt, and it's probably the most powerful & freeing thing I've ever done for myself.
Dance Parties Create Confidence
Think back to your first school dance. You probably were nervous at some point thinking, Am I really about to dance in front of everybody right now? Do I even know any dance moves? Ugh, this is so embarrassing. People are going to laugh at me. Trust me, we've all been there. To be honest, at my first middle school dance I was so awkward! I didn't know what to do with my limbs or how to start moving my body. I kept thinking of how I wasn't girly enough and how I felt like such a boy as a late bloomer. I was just standing there so nervous, too stunned by my own negative thoughts to actually let go and have fun. This is probably true for a lot of us. Dance parties can be nerve wrecking and make us socially anxious, especially now with all the new internet trolls & insta storying opportunities. But you know, once you get comfortable with yourself and start to let go of what other people think, that's when the party actually starts. You can live, let go and move confidently. You can start to embrace yourself in your quirks, wackiness and all. You can be bizarre, be who you are and laugh it all off. Coming into confidence at a dance party is a powerful thing because once you start moving, there's no holding back. Now I'm notoriously first on the dance floor and bust out my wacky white girl moves with pride LOL! So when Naohmi came up with the dance party theme for this collection, I knew it'd be perfect. Dancing is the ultimate form of self expression and takes true confidence to actually take part of. When planning this lookbook, I added a few bottles of champagne to our set list because I thought all us gals would need a little confidence booster, but to be honestly the energy and excitement in this amazing group of gals was intoxicating enough! If you followed along on our stories, you already know we did not even need a sip of it start the Dazey dance party. Seriously, every gal showed up and beamed with confidence from the get go. It was the most freeing and fun thing! I am so proud to have connected with truly confident babes for this collection and spread their radiating self love & confidence back to you. Who's ready for the next Dazey dance party?! *cue Juice by Lizzo"*
CREW OF QUEENS
Special Thanks to all our models: Natasha Ward, Sydney Louise Williams, Alexa Phelece, Olivia Cupp, Carly Compton, Oby Grace, Champagne, Grace Peters, Kennedy Slocum and Cloe. Huge thanks to our Dazey dude Phillip & our cinematographer Michael Greenwood, who is currently working on our fun Dazey dance party video soon to be released!
Thanks again Bend Goods for graciously letting us have a dance party in your gorgeous space! (follow them HERE!)
And of course biggest shout out to our Dazey Content Queen (official title) Naohmi Monroe for coming up with the idea, casting the most marvelous crew, shooting the whole thing, and truly putting all this together!