Happy International Women’s Day! To celebrate we’re sharing the stories of four women who have used the #highlightREAL or #IGvsREALme challenge to empower themselves. These challenges were created to lift the veil on our curated digital lives and EMBRACE who we are without filters, Instagrammable moments, and in our full, raw beauty. Whether it's learning to love yourself unfiltered, makeup-less, and all or it's letting go of self doubt and just running with your passion, we are so thrilled that these challenges could help you GROW. Today is all about CELEBRATING our strength, courage, and resilience as a sisterhood and recognizing just how far we’ve come. We’ve made more than a dent in history and we should damn well celebrate it. Read on to see how four women got transparent with themselves through #highlightREAL.
Power in Vulnerability
IG vs REAL me 👉 I’m going to be honest, this was a little scary to share. It’s so easy to hide behind the makeup, filters, and perfectly curated photos. It’s in our human nature to project our best self to others. The internet makes this SO easy, you can essentially live a double life. What doesn’t come as easy is showing your REAL side, flaws, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and all. But as Bene Brown says best, “Vulnerability is the core of shame, fear and a struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, belonging, and love.” 🙌 that’s what’s at the code of our new @dazey_la collection. We teamed up with our friend @officiallyquigley to bring back a super cool challenge she started, IG vs REAL ME 👊 Post your ultimate “highlight reel” GLAM shot, and then in your second photo post a highlight REAL photo. No makeup, no filter, no frills. Just like you see here! While a stunning photo of you that makes you feel confident AF is awesome, let’s remind each other that everything you see here on your screen is not the FULL picture ❤️ Make sure to use the hashtag #IGvsREALme and tag @dazey_la and @officiallyquigley in both the caption and tap tags so we don’t miss it 🙌 We will give away a free tee tomorrow 😘 Check out #IGmevsREALmeand get onboard with promoting realistic images of women.
Loving the Skin You're In
Earlier this week, I shared in my stories my makeup-less face post gym talking about my journey with restoration of beauty + confidence. Since middle school, I’ve struggled with acne, and with it, the shame of trying to cover it up and hide what wasn’t considered socially acceptable - I didn’t fit society’s standard of beauty. I made my personality or my fashion louder to distract from my appearance. I let shame secretly eat away at me for years, the fear of my naked face being seen by others always lingering under the surface. I turned 30 last month, and after a few years of proper, responsible skincare routines, I’m finally at a place in my life where I walk out of the house to go to the gym without makeup on — and I feel good. I feel beautiful, strong, Unapologetically Womanly.
I share this because I want to embolden and encourage other women to love the skin they’re in - flaws and all. Who says we can’t walk out of the house without makeup on and not just do it, but do it powerfully and beautifully, shining from the inside out? Who says what beauty is anyways? I say it’s internal - it’s eternal - it’s innate in each one of us. Our body is a temple, to be cared for and maintained, loved and nourished, fed and kept well. It holds spirit and soul, right there in our bones, coursing through our veins. I believe the outer skin is a reflection of the inner heart. Tend to your heart, just as much (or more!) than you tend to your body.
We are so innately beautiful, ladies! And there is strength in sisterhood. Let’s Be Bravely Beautiful, and let our souls shine.
I’m re-reading The Gifts of Imperfection by @brenebrown
and realigning myself with a daily practice of Authentic, Wholehearted Living. Instagram is not as it seems. We live in a filtered, touched up world, on and off this platform. It’s crazy to think it takes bravery to show your bare face or unfiltered life, to allow for imperfections and flaws to show, to think that maybe someone won’t like you as much of you do... but lately, the need to be REAL has outweighed the lie to be perfect. All I want is to stand in authentic truth. Here’s to more vulnerability, friends.
You Are Incessantly Insta-Worthy
Social media has taught me a lot. I’ve learned lot about how I carry myself, and the way I perceive myself. 💘
I’m a big advocate for self care, self love, and living a healthy lifestyle.🌿 The first picture is what I would usually post because my complexion looks nice, the angles are good, and to me it’s appealing. It’s a picture, that in my eyes, is an “Instagram-worthy” picture🎯
The second picture of me at the gym is after a much needed cardio session and some sauna/steam room time. My face is red as a 🍅 & my hair looks like a 🌪 came through and styled my hair. This isn’t something I’d usually post because it isn’t flattering to me.
What I can say is that I’m both of these pics I felt like an absolute boss babe. I love being ready and feeling put together💁🏼♀️ BUT I also love the second picture because I’m doing what I love and feeling good.
IG vs REAL you... both winners🏆
IG vs. Reality
Instagram VS reality. I’m usually pretty open about my anxiety and things, but I don’t want people to think that I have it all together. This week has been rough, you guys. The last couple weeks have been rough. I’ve been out of therapy since September, and while I’ve mostly been good, I can feel myself slipping back into the habit of letting my mind get away from me. Learning to be in control of my mind and feelings is an ongoing process. Sometimes I kick ass at it and other times my broken brain beats me down. Healing isn’t linear. That sucks to experience, but it’s a truth I try to hold on to while my mind beats myself up for taking a step forward and two back. Just because I’m not doing well today or this week or this month doesn’t mean I won’t continue to get better at it. So, if you’re struggling today with your mental health and beating yourself up about it, this is your reminder (and mine), that you are in control of your own mind. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t let the lies in your head ruin the beautiful truths around you. Let yourself have those days in the sunshine and don’t be angry with yourself when you have days feeling like garbage and watching The Bachelor.
Real Lives Aren’t Photoshopped
If you read my posts and watch my stories, you know I like talking about my real life and not what I sometimes portray on my Instagram feed. @officiallyquigley
started this amazing idea to post the Instagram you, versus the real you, to show that our real lives aren’t photoshopped. Social media is full of unrealistic expectations and makes people think they have to look a certain way. We need to realize that our lives will never solely be glamorous, but perfectly imperfect like our true selves. This is what I look like in professional photos.